How Gay Can I Be? Gay Coaches Identity Self-Management with Clients

How Gay Can I Be? Gay Coaches Identity Self-Management with Clients

With Shane Scott and Tim Kincaid

Coming out was difficult for most of us. Being out is arguably harder, because it never really ends.

Even if we have been out for a long time, in a heteronormative culture we must still consciously manage our identity. We choose in each moment, each interaction, how much to disclose about ourselves. These self-management decisions are often reflexive and unconscious defaults. This shows up in our businesses and coaching practices, too -- even when coaching LGBTQ clients.

We may ask ourselves:

  • 'How relevant is my sexuality to this coaching client?
  • Will sharing just be a distraction?
  • Will coming out/being out harm the coaching relationship?
  • Will I lose this coaching engagement?

In this informative and interactive conference session, we will explore the underpinnings of coming out and being out, the constructs of transference and countertransference, and how shame and our old internal stories inform how we show up as coaches. You will take away greater awareness of your own identity management defaults, and learn some alternatives to help you make more informed choices on how much to share in your interactions with clients, colleagues, and your community.

About Shane Scott

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Shane Scott is a Clinical Social Worker and a Coach. Shane helps men who are struggling with their sexuality, gender identity, and/or substance use, and helps his clients develop the awareness and skills needed to live their most authentic lives. Shane has a coaching and therapy practice in Connecticut and facilitates workshops and training for professionals throughout the New England/New York region.

Website: www.shanemscott.com; Email: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

About Tim Kincaid

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Tim Kincaid, EdD, PCC, is principal of Kincaid Associates Coaching & Consulting LCC, offering a range of professional services that help individuals, teams and organizations to be more focused, effective, and successful. He holds ICF certification, and is trained and certified to administer several well-regarded personality assessments. Tim is also on faculty at three universities, teaching a variety of business and behavioral sciences courses. His doctoral dissertation centered on the coming out process as transformative learning. A proud member of the GCA, Tim has presented at each of the previous Gay Coaches Conferences. In 2017, he received the GCA‰Ûªs Thomas J. Leonard Award. Tim and his husband of 29 years live in Dallas/Fort Worth, Texas.

Website: www.kincaidcoaching.com; Email: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.